Episode 08: Why Your Past Does Not Have to Dictate Your Future

In this episode of The Jerry & Jacobe Podcast, hosts Jerry Weaver and Jacobe Kendrick discuss the ways in which your past can seem to determine your present and future, and how to move away from that misconception to find more freedom. They discuss identifying what is true about the assumptions you’re making, how fear holds us back, and more.

Episode Highlights: 

• How does your past affect your present and future, and how can you prevent it from defining your outcomes?
• Look for the most improved player award instead of most valuable player award.
• Jacobe wants his kids to maximize their full potential, even if that means they don’t make more money than he does, or exceed him in some other metric.
• Sometimes, your biggest issue now involves something that happened in your past.
• One of Jacobe’s favorite Bible verses on this topic is 7 Corinthians 5:17. 
• Jerry believes the biggest hurdle is fear.
• The way you respond to fear and respond to the unknown is within your control, even if what happens is not.
• We tend to trap ourselves in the person we think that we are, and that eliminates the possibility of us becoming the person we either know we should or could be.
• Whatever your goal is, your mind is capable of connecting the dots from where you are now to how you will achieve that goal.
• Jacobe’s parents used to tell him he was the best at whatever he did, and he realizes, now as a father himself, that what they were saying was that they loved him no matter what.
• Jerry’s father always said he was unsuccessful and would never come in first place, and that became the truth Jerry operated with for years.
• Jerry recounts a story from, “7 Habits of Highly Effective People”, about taking the time to sharpen your saw to make your work easier and more efficient.
• Jerry believes that God will use his weaknesses much more than He will ever use his strengths. 
• Even if you think you have something figured out, you’re always going to encounter a problem somewhere and eventually you are going to need to ask for help.
• Jacobe acknowledges that you can spend too much time dwelling on the past and worrying about the future, and emphasizes focusing on the present.
• At the same time, having a sense of urgency about the future is a good motivation to get things done in the present.
• Sometimes, not having a plan B is what will force you to succeed.
• Jerry doesn’t spend much time thinking about his past because he doesn’t like it, and says his past trained him to focus on the present and neglect future goals.
• Jacobe likes to look at what people say on their deathbeds and use it as guidance, because a lot of people express regrets like wishing they’d spent more time with their families.
• Your past doesn’t define your future.
• For investors, you should know if your agent is also an investor. 
• Investors should also take a look at the kinds of investors you’re currently working with.

3 Key Points:

1.  Fear related to something in your past is often the main thing holding you back in the present.
2. Always question whether what you’re responding to is the truth.
3. Sometimes it’s helpful to create a sense of urgency by not having a plan B.

Resources Mentioned:

• Jacobe Kendrick (Facebook, LinkedIn, Instagram)
• Jerry Weaver (Facebook, LinkedIn, Instagram)
• Jerry and Jacobe Podcast (Facebook page)
• Turning Pro (book)
• 7 Habits of Highly Effective People (book)
• The 33 Strategies of War (book)
• The Rock speech to the L.A. Lakers (video)